Update to Spankings

Hubby said I need to be careful about what I post. He doesn't want some dogooder reading this and calling the authorities because we spank our kids. Fine. Note to dogooder: Get a life. If you have nothing better to do than nit pick other people's lives, you need to get one yourself. That should do it.

I have taken a page from my friend, D. She has noticed that the behavior of her children, specifically between two of them, which is part my problem, is not the best. She and her husband prayed about it, asking for guidance, because they were at the end of their rope. What they came up with will help my kids, so I am borrowing parts of it. Here goes with the discipline plan.

For the first offense, the child, whichever one it happens to be, will have to right a bible verse relating to the correct behavior. The number of times will depend on the child. The big girl loves to write, so the number of times would have to be a lot for her to get tired of writing. The boy can't stand to even have a pencil in his hand so he will have to write them fewer for him to be punished. The baby, well we'll just have to see.

If it is a personality conflict, if one is picking on or irritating the other, not only will they have to write the bible verse, but they will have to also help whoever they are irritating, without snarking about it. If they snark, they must write the verses again, and then model it. Again, minus the snarking. They must serve with loving hearts and open minds.

If it is a fighting issue, verbal because they know what happens when it gets physical, they will have to write the bible verse and not speak for a predetermined amount of time. They may not speak or use sign language, but be totally quiet. They will also have all electronic equipment revoked until future notice. They will not be able to pick a TV show to watch.

Do not think for one second that spankings have been revoked. If these measures do not produce appropriate behavior, they will be spanked. Appropriate behavior includes not fighting with or irritating each other just because, listening and doing because it's the right thing to do, and doing what they are supposed to do when they are supposed to do it with no back talking. There will also be a discussion about why they are behaving the way they are. If there is an issue we need to discuss, we will. I like the fact that my kids will talk to me about anything. I try to listen, not always easy for me. I would rather offer solutions than leave it to someone else. But I am trying to get better myself.

Have a great day!